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Marriage Strengthening Tip #17: Do You Disagree, Argue, or Fight?, Part 5

Marriage Strengthening Tip #17: Do You Disagree, Argue, or Fight?, Part 5

I'll wrap up this five part series on two notes: a) when one of you "wins" in a disagreement, the relationship loses; b) there is a way for the relationship to always win--simply disagree RESPECTFULLY!  Your objective should be to decide the best way forward, not to win or be right.  Most of the time, that "best" is going to be a blend of what you both think.  At those times when the "best way forward" is in fact what your spouse is thinking, you have an opportunity to practice Ephesians 5:21 which says, "honor Christ by submitting to EACH OTHER" (Living Letters: The Paraphrased Epistles, by Kenneth Taylor).

Yes, the two of you are going to disagree at times; after all, there are two of you!  When you feel strongly enough about your viewpoint, you are likely to move from disagreement to arguing, at least at some level.  Before proceeding any further, avoid contempt like deadly poison, meet in the middle over what you are both needing, and concern yourself more with being respectful than being right.  Do that and you will stay in love the rest of your lives.

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Paul Spasic

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